Positive communication is key in fostering healthy relationships and interactions. Replace negative phrases with the provided alternatives below to create a more constructive and harmonious communication style, further strengthening your connection with others.

ACTIVE LISTENING Seek Compromise and solutions. • Work together to find common ground and potential solutions. • Respect both of your needs and desires

EXPRESS YOUR FEELING & NEEDS

Use "I" statements to express your own feelings. • Avoid making accusations or using "you" statements. • Be honest and specific

SEEK COMPROMISE AND SOLUTIONS

Work together to find common ground and potential solutions. • Respect both of your needs and desires..

Negative Phrases Receiving Partner’s Feelings Positive Phrases

"You never listen to me.”

Unheard, frustrated

"I sometimes feel like I'm not being heard. Can we talk more?

"You always do this.”

Annoyed, exasperated

"I've noticed a pattern. Is everything okay?"

"You're so selfish.”

Hurt, defensive

"I think we both have needs. Let's figure out how to meet them together."

"You're wrong.”

Defensive, argumentative

"I see things differently. What formed your perspective

"You're so lazy.”

Resentful, defensive

"We have different approaches to chores. How about we find a fair solution?"

"You ruined my day.”

Guilt, frustration

"I had a tough day today. Can we talk about it tomorrow . I want to sleep on it for better clarity.”

"You're too sensitive.”

Invalidated, defensive

"I understand you have strong feelings. Can you help me understand them better?"

“I don’t want to talk about it.”

Shut out, frustrated, or anxious.

Can we take a break and revisit it later when we're both ready?"